Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Comparisons

As a mom, it's hard not to compare. We compare ourselves, our babies, even our husbands in this whole parenting adventure... and it's exhausting. I know that. I know it's wrong, and pointless, and rather stupid... but I can't stop myself.

Part of it is that I'm a judgmental person. I hate it about myself, but I totally judge others. Their looks, their ideas, the list goes on and on. I'm working on it, I swear. I'm just not good at it, but I know it's important for me to do for Fynn's sake. I learned my judging from my mom, and I don't want to pass that on to my baby girl. 

But this Mommy thing... is a whole other level. I'm trying not to get sucked into it. When I sit at my breastfeeding support group and listen to other moms. When I'm visiting with friends. When I read blogs or online forums. 

I. Judge. Them. All

But at least I do it on the inside. I think about all the things I think other moms are doing wrong, or compare my baby to mine, or mentally one-up them. What drives me nuts, are the people that do it aloud... especially when they lie stretch the truth a bit. Your baby started rolling over at 3 weeks? Slept through the night starting the day you got home from the hospital? Said their first meaningful word at 4 weeks? Yeah, I call BS on all of you. I get it, we all have the MOST amazing baby In.The.World. I'm totally guilty on that front, but let's be honest here about what our kids can and can't do. Your blatant lies make it that much easier for me to judge you.

1 comment:

  1. I couldn't help but judge you for the way you said that...just kidding!! I completely agree with you. I keep my judging to myself too. It makes for quite the conversation in my head!
    BTW my girls rolled over at 2 weeks, slept through the night before they were born, and started lecturing at 3 weeks! (I so feel like Kristen Wiig from SNL doing Penelope, the one upper!)

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