Saturday, September 7, 2013

When are you having another baby?

I get this question all the time. Seriously. Especially now that I'm back for the new school year. All the coworkers I haven't seen since June feel the need to question when my next journey into procreation will begin.

Why!?!?

It's like asking a women without kids when she's going to have them. It's 
a) none of your business
b)not like she's really going to tell you
c)annoying 
d) all of the above

If you picked d then you're probably smart enough to not ask the question. 

So when are we going to have another baby? Well, let's think about this. Kid #1 still doesn't sleep through the night at 14 months. That's right. I'm freaking tired. No way on earth am I going to pop out another one when this one wont even let me sleep. Can you imagine me on even less sleep? Then there's the fact that I just started grad school. Yeah, that adds to the exhaustion, stress and general apathy towards adding anything else to my plate. My program will take about 2 1/2 years. So there's that.

That said. I don't want to wait forever and I do actually want more kids. I often joke about how Fynn has made us "one and done" with her sheer determination to avoid sleep. Most of the time when people ask I just laugh and say when she starts sleeping through the night, I'll start thinking about it. But that's a lie. I've been thinking about it. Just like before we got pregnant with her, I have ideas... I just don't want to discuss them with everyone I know.

I originally thought that a three year age gap was ideal. As in I would get pregnant again next spring/summer... but I'm thinking not so much now. Mostly due to the reasons I already listed, but also due to the fact that I want to enjoy some time as a family of three. I'm still getting used to having one kid... I don't think we're ready to take on more.

Have I answered the question? Yes and no. The truth is, I don't know. I know what I'd like to do, but I'm also being realistic about what makes sense for us. There's also the fact that Drew is adamantly against even talking about having another one. Since he's kinda, sorta maybe a part of this whole equation, I guess I have to get him on board too. I guess.  

4 comments:

  1. I'm pregnant with my first and I've had people ask how many we will have. Can I have this one first and see how it goes?!?

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  2. I just had my second and people look at me like I'm crazy when I discuss the possibility of a third. I'm not sure why 2 has become the magic number. One is too little and three is too many I guess!

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  4. I hear ya! I've been married three years and oh the things I have to hear. Coming form a Pakistani background, every one feels like they need to offer an opinion on your life. The hubby and I are talking about it but there is no why that whenever I get pregnant that I'm gonna be announcing it. My body, my life, my happiness; I don't want people ruining it. (I had bad experiences when I got engaged). So yeah it completely irritates me.

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