Tuesday, March 10, 2015

I had a baby, and now my toddler is a mess.

I know my post yesterday seems contrary to the title of this post, but bear with me, it does make sense.

Fynn is an awesome big sister. She loves on "her baby" as she calls him and is constantly worried about whether he's happy or hungry. She wants me to attend to his cries the second he makes a peep and loves to rub his head and talk to him. She is as good of a big sister as I could have asked for.

However, she is a mess in other aspects, and I'm sure it has to do with all the changes around here. Fynn was a good sleeper up until he was born; went to bed relatively easy around 7:30 every night and slept until 7 or 8 in the morning if we didn't have to wake her up to go to work. Now she's fighting every part of her bedtime routine, screaming at us the entire time, and taking twice as long as usual to fall asleep. She's also waking up in the middle of the night, sometimes needing to come to bed with us before she'll calm down and waking up around 6 again.

Besides sleep, she's just not as happy as she was just two weeks ago. She's clingy and nervous and seems afraid we're going to leave her. She begs to sit in my lap and will often climb on me when Bentley needs to nurse. She throws random fits that aren't the same "terrible twos" fits that she had a few weeks ago. These are angry and frustrated fits that make me feel awful.

I know this is all an adjustment for her; her whole world has been turned upside down, but I can't help feeling guilty and horrible that we're putting her through al this emotional turmoil. I'm not sure how to reassure her that things will be okay, that life will return to a new normal, and that she's still my baby. I try to tell her these things, but she's not ready to make sense of it yet.

I guess I just have to keep loving on her and giving her extra attention to help her through this hard time. I know it's a normal reaction to all the changes, but man is it hard to see her like this.

1 comment:

  1. Hello! I've been reading since you were a Monday's Mama on Aliya's blog, but have never commented. I had to after reading this post. I'm going through the EXACT same thing! My baby is one month old and the first 2 weeks were awful for my 2 year old. The tantrums, the bad behavior, the clinginess (I think I made up a word), the waking in the night... this was not the 2 year old I knew. I was jealous of my husband for getting to go to work and leaving the chaos behind. Just wanted to tell you that it will get better! My 2 year old is still clingy and still wakes at night (so much fun with a newborn), BUT the tantrums and bad behavior have stopped. We're getting into a better rhythm - they're even both sleeping right now!! I don't expect simultaneous naps to occur often, but when it does happen, it's bliss. :) Hang in there!! :)



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